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If a (former) broken heart could speak

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“Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone he/she loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again.

But sometimes a love lost is a love gone forever…

No amount of hope can bring back to life a relationship that just died a natural death. Set yourself free, let your heart spread its wings and fly. Remember, it may rain for 40 days and 40 nights, but still it will not rain forever. One day the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest. One of these is where you will build your nest and star all over again. It’s never too late.

You may not find love and lost it but, when love dies, you never die with it. You cannot be a redeemer all your life. The best way to weigh a relationship is through the test of fire. You cannot be a sober with your mistake forever. We all fail and make wrong decisions but our blunders are not meant to bury us deep in misery but to teach us the valued lessons of life.

Loving is always a learning process. With love we learn how to care and sacrifice. We learn to share and reach out.  We learn to be unselfish and give more than we can.  Then, when everything doesn’t end well, we learn how it feels like to fail and get hurt.

But learning doesn’t have to end there. After our fall, we strive to get back on our feet and move on. This is where we learn that life does not end where our heartaches begin. There’s no future for a relationship of lies and selfishness It’s true, there is life in love. And yes, there can still be life even after losing love — only if leave the past behind and let your healed heart give you the chance to find yourself again.

There would come a time in our lives when we have a chance to meet someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than friendship. We star our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded so we end up being sorry for ourselves. Well, you don’t have to forget someone you love! What you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter nor sorry for yourself. You would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving — who would love you the way you wanted to be loved.

Don’t let your heart run your life. Be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means someone better is coming tomorrow. If you lose someone, it does not mean that you failed in love. Cry (if you have to). Just make sure that those tears would wash away the hurt and bitterness that the past left you with.

Let go of yesterday and let love find its way back to you.  And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.

A woman on the rebound could easily fall for sweeping emotions and be made falsely believe that she finally stumbled upon the right person, when what she just found is only someone to cover up for the love she lost. A man who makes a promise with words and not with actions may never live up to fulfill them, remember that.

It’s true that love can wait forever but it is crazy to stubbornly hope for someone who feel doesn’t even care or understand how you feel. You deserve to be happy not in the arms of a person who keeps you waiting  but in the arms of someone who will take you now and love you forever.

If loving a person who is attached to someone else is a crime, then, maybe, many of us would have been jailed long before we realize what its consequences could have been. Loving someone is never a sin. It’s what people do out of love that sometimes makes it all wrong. The selfish desire to want that person is what makes it a sin. Don’t think only of your feeling because real love do not have a place for selfish people.

When there is love, there are always sacrifices. When we love someone, we never easily give up on that person. Even if we get hurt badly, we always try to find a way to ease the pain and learn to understand and forgive. Loving too much doesn’t hurt. its when we expect this love to be reciprocated that we begin to seek approval and acceptance of the things we have done and when we are taken for granted and rejected, we curse the very same love that we once freely and happily offered.

Don’t waste your time waiting for someone who never really cared about how you have felt. Open your heart again and give yourself a chance to fins the man the man who would make loving worth the pain and the sacrifice. Just like anything else, our love grows weak and dies, if not taken cared of. It can keep up with pain only to a certain extent. Beyond that, it withers without any hope of recovery and soon dies.

God wakes us in the midst of a storm to teach us a lesson. He takes away people we love so we can learn to value love itself. He makes us cry so hard so we can see clearly when we open our eyes. He makes us bitter so we can realize that there is no genuine happiness if we think only of our own needs and not of others.

Relationships built on jealousy and selfishness are doomed from the very beginning. Most of us cry endlessly over things that could have been but never will be.

God allows us to experience pain to make us stronger and better persons. He will see us through the most trying and difficult times in our lives and only if we put our trust in Him can we learn to find joy in our tears and happiness in our sorrows.

In many failed relationships, separation comes as inevitable but moving on always proves to be twice as difficult as letting go. Sometimes, our choice to hold on is beyond the control of circumstances. Letting go is a decision that can never be dictated to us. It is a resolution we make to ourselves. Acceptance is the key to a new beginning and time the healer of all wounds. Even if storm casts its fearful shadow, there will always be light after our darkness and loneliest moments. There is always hope for those who believe. There is always a chance for those who try.

Losing someone we love may not be a loss at all but blessing in disguise because someone even more deserving is yet to come.

There is nothing wrong in expressing our feelings to someone we love, but we must always be sensitive to the signals that tell us when to rationalize and be sensible enough.

There would really come a time in our lives when we would fall for someone who wouldn’t be as interested as we are because his attention is focused on someone else. There are many times when we love but don’t get love in return. There are times when the sign ahead says stop but we still stubbornly head on.

We would say our love is unconditional. But if it really is, then we should never feel bad. But why do we get frustrated when love turns sour? Because we still subconsciously seek acceptance and assurance from the people we care about.

Remember, the success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of its beginning but in its consistency. Make a choice not on impulse but decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart.

Being in love can be the most wonderful thing we could experience BUT if the feeling begins to consume our whole beings, then we have to stop and let our minds (not our hearts) dictate our actions. Only when we learn to accept our fate as well as understand the meaning of our failures can we truly go on with life. — without looking back and crying over to the things that could have been but will never be…” – Anonymous

Note: This is written from the bottom of the heart by an inlove and inspired lady, I guess. My heart just re-arranged /edited some words so that I can relate well since blog ko naman ‘to. Hihi. There’s no title as well so I put my own title.
To whoever wrote this, I wanna meet you personally before I die. I admire you and your sincere heart to come up with this. Pure puso talaga ang laman na ‘to. Ramdam na ramdam ko sagad hanggang buto. Lahat tayo makakarelate dito. Bull’s eye, di ba? Come up Anonymous. A fan here! =)) *standing ovation*

Para sa mga na-friendzoned…

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Friendzoned – 1 .(adj) modern word na ginangamit kapag dinedescribed na hanggang kaibigan lang ang tingin niya sa’yo pero yong tingin mo sa kaniya more than that — kasi mahal mo. 2. (syn) – one sided lover

Friendzoned.

These past few days, hindi ko alam kung bakit, andami kong kwentong narining tungkol sa ibang taong masasbi kong, napabilang sa tinatawag na na-friendzoned slash one sided lover. Mahirap ‘yon. Masakit. Given the fact na you want to be more than friends with him/her, but you just can’t kasi friends lang tingin niya sa’yo? Jusko. Magulo.

Hmmm, yong mga na-friendzoned? Sila  siguro ‘yong mga lover na magpapatunay na hindi porke’t mahal mo, happy ending na kayo … na okay na lahat … na mamahalin ka rin gaya ng pagmamahal mo sa kaniya. Minsan, may mga taong meant lang talagang dumaan sa buhay mo. Well, oo, para saktan ka, paiyakin, at iparamdam sa’yo ang pait ng pag-ibig. Para lagyan ng twist ang boring mong buhay at dagdagan ng spice ang ordinaryo ang pang-araw araw mong buhay. But on the bright side, ‘yong pagdaan nilang ‘yon ay maaaring para pala ipaalala sa’yo ng mundo na hindi lahat ng gusto slash mahal mo, makukuha mo (lalo na kung hindi naman gustong ibigay sa’yo ng mundo ‘yong gusto mo).

Maraming taong na-friendzoned na for sure. Bakit? Kasi siguro nagmamahal sila ng taong hindi naman nilaan ng Diyos para sa kanila. Pero dahil sa pesteng tama ni kupido, akala nila, siya na si the one. ‘Yon pala, siya si the one ng other person (at hindi talaga para sa kanila).

Gusto ko lang i-share at sabihin na sobraaaa kong ina-admire this one (1) friend of mine na itago na lang natin sa pangalang Pedro. Siya, kahit na na-friendzone na, he still wanted to be friends doon sa nang-friendzoned sa kaniyang itago na lang natin sa pangalang Maria. Tapos, tinutulungan niya pang manligaw yong nanligaw kay Maria (na ngayon ay bf na ni Maria). Hanggang ngayon, kapag masama loob ni Maria sa bf niya, kay Pedro pa rin siya naglalabas ng sama ng loob. Grabeh no?

Pero, correction lang ha: I admire Pedro for that but I am not really saying na gayahin niyo si Pedro. Minsan, isipin rin ang sarili para hindi ka naabuso. Huwag gawing t*ng* dahil lang sa nagmamahal ka. Kasi dapat ‘yang pagmamahal na ‘yan, it motivates and inspires you to become a better person to be the best other half of your special someone and not to be MORE AND MORE stupid everyday pra lang sa kaniya. Okay?

Sabi nga ni Nick Vucijic,

Nick

Keep moving na-friendzoned na friends. Kaya niyo yan! Bilyon-bilyon ang tao sa mundo, don’t let one (1) person ruined your life. Don’t worry, someday when the pages of your life end, you’ll know that he/she will only be one of its beautiful chapters. Pero yong most beautiful chapter ng buhay mo is yet to come. Trust Him and His amazing plans for your heart — that time, hindi ka na ma-fe-friendzoned siguro… 😉

Don’t lie about how you feel. Be honest. It saves so much heartache. Soon, you’ll be fine. Don’t worry.

Walang tralse or frue

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Sa buhay, darating ‘yong point na kailangan mong pumili at mag-desisyon (at syempre pangatawanan ito).
Oo kung oo, hindi kung hindi. Bawal ang o ‘di (oo+hindi).
TRALSEParang pag exam, tapos true and false ang pagpipilian, pwede ka bang sumagot ng tralse o kaya nama’y frue?
O dili naman kaya’y pag matching type, pwede mo bang ulitin ang sagot na A sa number 1 tapos A ulit sa number 2? Hindi ba pag may ka-match na yong letter na ‘yon, ibang letter naman dapat ang i-match mo? Or else, isang number ang magiging mali. Sayang ang chance na kung sumagot ka ng magkaibang letter, may chance na tama yon pareho.
Tapos kapag tama o mali, pwede bang tali (TAma o maLI) o kaya nama’y mama (taMA o MAli) ang sasagot mo.
Panget ng pakinggan, non-sense pa.
Huwag mamuhay na lahat na sa’yo kasi natatakot kang may hindi pillin. Tandaan, huwag gawing option ang iba. Because nobody deserves to be an option. NO ONE. We all deserve to be the best choice .. always … by the right person … and for the right reason. ^____^
#RandomThoughts

Isip isip din ‘pag may time

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let go

Some things to ponder para sa lahat ng mga tao sa mundo ko (at ang mga random na taong nagbabasa ng blog na ito):

  • Kapag handa ka nang iwan ang nakaraan tsaka ka lang magiging handang salubungin ang hinaharap.
  • Kung masaya ka, wag mo nang isipin kung bakit. Damahin mo na lang habang nararamdaman mo pa.
  • Alam mo ba na ang TAMPO ay mas special kesa sa GALIT? Kasi ang GALIT pwede kahit sino. pero ang TAMPO ay para sa taong hindi mo kayang mawala sayo.
  • Ayoko sana ikaw itext kasi gusto ko namimis mo naman ako at maramdaman ko na mahalaga rin ako sayo. Yun nga lang, sensya na di ako kasing TIBAY mo……na masaya kahit WALA AKO. 😦
  • “Ayokong makita mo akong nahihirapan kasi baka mas masaktan ako pag nakita kong wala kang pakialam.” – Bob Ong.
  • Hindi nagbabago ang tingin ko sa isang tao dahil sa galit o natutuwa ako sa kaniya. Nag-iiba ang tingin ko sa isang tao dahil nag-iiba din kung ano ang ipinapakita niya.
  • May araw na masaya, mas masaya at napakasaya. Pero walang araw na malungkot. Mas masaya ka lang kahapon, kaya pakiramdam mo, malungkot ka ngayon.
  • Ang paulit-ulit na karanasan ay may dahilan. Ito ay para turuan tayo sa mga bagay na paulit-ulit nating HINDI matutunan.
  • Isipin mo na lang ikaw ang huling pahina ng coloring book niya. Makukulayan ka, maghintay ka lang. Pudpod na ang crayola pagdating sayo, pero sigurado ka naman na hindi na siya lalampas sa mga guhit mo. At wala ng next page pagkatapos mo.

Ponder ponder din ‘pag may time.

PS: Quotes were compiled by the blogger.

Sinulat ng may lungkot.

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Kapag puno na ang timba, lahat ng ini-aapaw nito, nasasayang. Parang pag-ibig lang…lahat ng umaapaw, natatapon at nasasayang. :((

You are at your worst for the last two (2) two weeks but why does I still want you in my life?

No matter how hard you throw me stones of pains and razor me with pinky scissors of heartaches, I still bare with it.

I then realized that teka muna, bakit ganoon? It seems like you are something to me…

…kasi kung ordinaryong lalaki ka lang sa buhay ko, if you would be at your worst, it must be as easy as 1, 2, 3 for me to walk away.

BUT HOW COME I JUST CAN’T? :((

And how come you are now acting as if I make the wrong move?

Prove me right, please.

Bato bato sa langit, ang tamaan siguradong masasaktan.

Give thanks to your problem

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To give thanks in every situation is, sometimes, very difficult.

When our body is wracked with pain,

or you have just learned that you have a physical problem for which there is no cure,

or you have lost your job.

or cherish a relationship has been broken,

it’s hard to feel grateful!

But, hey friend, God said..

 

“I take pleasures in infirmities…in distresses, for Christ’s sake” (2 Cor. 12:10.)

Thank you Lord for the challenges in my life. Because of those things, I am stronger now. Also, I won’t be afraid anymore as You would always be there for me. AMEN.

 

(You’re not alone in) feeling alone

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Have you ever been alone ———- really alone?

 

I’m talking about those who feel alone in a crowded mall, or in a church full of people.

But hey friend, I tell you this:

 

If you have invited Christ into your life as Savior and Lord, you would never be alone. 🙂

“I am with You always, even to the end of age” – Matt. 28:20.